Different People, Different Journey's
Everyone of has a story to tell, we all have ups and we all have downs. It’s amazing when you stop to think about it, we humans are so similar and yet at the same time so very different. Everything around us affects our story and how we tell it. Our parents, the town we grew up in, our environment, and our experiences all have different effects on every one of us.
There are times when you see the way somebody acts and you end up saying to yourself “if I were him I would have done that differently” or “if I were her I would have said this instead of that”. We always seem to find, so easily, a way to pour out judgement after judgement of other people’s stories. When in reality if you were that person; that is to say if you swapped every neurological process, every event, every experience, with the ones of the person whom you are judging, it would not be possible for you to do anything differently in which that person has done. How could you? If you were that person you would have made the same exact choices. I say this not to get into a philosophical debate about free-will. I say this to emphasis the fact that our own, unique, and individualized stories are so different. This means we will all find the path to a successful and fulfilling life (or recovery) in different ways and through different catalysts. What worked for me may not work for you. What worked for you may not work for me. To relate this to addiction; following the 12-step program to a “T” may be exactly what you need in order to stay clean and sober. But maybe I need to take more of an eastern mindfulness approach. If what you are doing is keeping you on the correct path, do not stop.
Since the moment I was placed in jail I have heard time after time of people relapsing. In order to keep this from happening to us we must constantly be putting our recovery/sobriety in the forefront of our daily lives. As mentioned earlier, what worked for me may or may not work for you. But we will never know what does and does not work if we are not applying and trying everything. It’s the process of elimination at it’s finest. There can be a million different reasons why one thing worked for you and did not work for me, but that is not what’s important. What is important is that we are always searching for the application that does work.
Too many times and far too often do I hear people talk as if the way that is keeping them clean and sober is the only one true way that will work for everyone else. That, my friends, is fallaciousness at it’s finest. The true problem comes when a person who cannot stay clean and has failed repeatedly at sobriety refuses to try the way that has worked for you. We must always be open minded to every path. We must always keep our recovery in the forefront of our daily lives. Take what you can from everybody’s journey, apply it, and disregard what does not work and keep what does. We must never stop working on ourselves. Learn from everyone you hear. Don’t stop listening just because you hear one thing you do not agree with, for if you do that, you are doing yourself a great injustice.